xeniba

hawaii girl living in chicago. fat. queer. fun. awkward. silly. dancer. singer.

By default, our entire language is set up in a way that categorizes and compares things, and then (usually) labels one of them ‘good’ or ‘bad’. No one would have a strong sense of being a woman[1] if there wasn’t an opposite gender to compare to.

Unfortunately, the average person lacks adequate insight into their own feelings to express them clearly and thoroughly[2]. Then we try, but often do a piss-poor job, and we get things like “I feel fat.” It would be impossible to generalize what everyone means when they say something like that. But we know that people with eating disorders, along with being preoccupied with food, often compare themselves to other people. We also know[3] that being underweight and/or malnourished disrupts essential biological processes and brain functions, having a drastic and serious effect on emotional regulation, judgment, and self-perception. To the anorexic mind, ‘fat’ is one of the worst things a person can be, so when all that negative affect is at it’s worse, it’s no wonder it might get generalized into a sense of “feeling” fat.

So, if you find yourself thinking or saying “I feel fat,” I challenge you to try again, and express how you’re feeling without using the word ‘fat’ (or any other descriptors for body size, for that matter!) Maybe you really mean you have a ‘sense of being’ fat. But what about that is significant? What feelings and emotions are provoking that specific idea?

knitmeapony:

singing-n-the-rain:

heykevy:

what-the-eff-jarren:

markmejia:

theuniverseismyrunway:

videohall:

Coffee Faucet: If there were ever a time to say ‘shut up and take my money’ this is that time

FUCK

I just stared at my screen the whole time.

Oh fuck.

omg………this need to be in my house

I don’t even like coffee that much AND I WANT THIS 

WHAT THE WHAT

Also can we talk about that cup they keep using?  With the no symbols over the breasts of a weird person-outline?  WTF is up with that?

I think those are coffee beans over the breasts. Still, weird.

I hate coffee, but was completely mesmerized by this!

whyyesitiskate:

lacuisine:

Know Your Peaks!

1 - Souffle: You want whites that have gained volume and are just firm enough to hold a peak.

2 - Meringue: Most meringue recipes call for stiff peaks, which will stand up straight.

3 - Oops! If your whites are clumpy and grainy, you’ve gone too far.

(Thanks to Bon Appétit)

I need one of these point by point guides to Hollandaise because it is seriously easy to go beyond sauce and straight into olive oil infused scrambled egg yolk.

(via therotund)

We live down the street from a gay couple with a young son, my son goes and plays there and has lunch there. My son is 8 years old, and not once has he come and asked why his friend has two poppas. His family is no different to my family – they eat at the same time, send their kid to school, discipline him and love him the same way. It’s only the teaching that we give to the child that makes them see those distinctions.

Mark Ruffalo  (via et-in-arkadia)

As if I needed another reason to love Mark Ruffalo!

(Source: foxnews.com, via knitmeapony)

thecakebar:

 DIY Tutorial: Rainbow Cake

1. I’ve made rainbow cupcakes a few times, but never a rainbow layer cake. It’s definitely on my baking to-do list!
2. It *really* bugs me that a lot of the rainbow cake tutorials have the rainbow upside down. I would want the red on top and the violet on the bottom. Is it just me?

thecakebar:

 DIY Tutorial: Rainbow Cake

1. I’ve made rainbow cupcakes a few times, but never a rainbow layer cake. It’s definitely on my baking to-do list!

2. It *really* bugs me that a lot of the rainbow cake tutorials have the rainbow upside down. I would want the red on top and the violet on the bottom. Is it just me?

(via sleepydumpling)

Redefining Body Image: Fuck social anxiety.

randomlancila:

My mother’s friend is a mechanic and she told me to call him to schedule a time when I can go in and get an estimate, and I just can’t call him.

So I asked her to do it, but she won’t, because she doesn’t get the difference between ‘crippling social anxiety’ and ‘just don’t…

You are SO not alone. I find that it’s easier for me to call on behalf of someone else…for whatever reason, if it’s not for me, it is way less scary. Sometimes I’ll just say I’m calling on behalf of someone else when it’s really for me, sometimes I’ll volunteer to make a call for someone I’m close to who also has social anxiety. I don’t know why that works for me, but it does (not always, but a lot of the time).

dinnerwasdelicious:

GIVEAWAY
Like we said earlier this week: vanilla beans from the grocery store are complete bullshit. Overpriced, dried out, flavorless bullshit.
THESE vanilla beans, on the other hand, are patently not and three of our readers are going to find out just how delicious they are!
We’re giving away three 2.1oz packages of JR Mushroom and Specialties Bourbon Madagascar Vanilla Beans!
Rules:
To be eligible you must:
Follow us on Tumblr
Follow us on Twitter
Reblog this post.
Contest closes in one week, at 11pm CST on Thursday, July 5, 2012. Winners will be picked at random and announced on Friday, July 6, 2012 at 3pm CST.
For a BONUS entry, follow @effingdelicious on Instagram.
Good luck!

dinnerwasdelicious:

GIVEAWAY

Like we said earlier this week: vanilla beans from the grocery store are complete bullshit. Overpriced, dried out, flavorless bullshit.

THESE vanilla beans, on the other hand, are patently not and three of our readers are going to find out just how delicious they are!

We’re giving away three 2.1oz packages of JR Mushroom and Specialties Bourbon Madagascar Vanilla Beans!

Rules:

To be eligible you must:

  1. Follow us on Tumblr
  2. Follow us on Twitter
  3. Reblog this post.

Contest closes in one week, at 11pm CST on Thursday, July 5, 2012. Winners will be picked at random and announced on Friday, July 6, 2012 at 3pm CST.

For a BONUS entry, follow @effingdelicious on Instagram.

Good luck!

(Source: dinnerwasdelicious)